Certainly! **BDSM** (an umbrella acronym describing a variety of behaviors such as bondage, discipline, sado-masochism, dominance, and submission) has gained some social acceptance and recognition that these behaviors are not inherently unhealthy. Clinical guidelines for kink were promulgated in 2019, acknowledging that diverse sexual interests such as BDSM are not necessarily problematic.

However, when it comes to legal aspects, there are some important considerations:

1. **Legality by Country**:
- Certain BDSM activities are considered illegal in some countries. However, criminalization of consensual BDSM practices usually does not explicitly reference BDSM itself. Instead, it results from the fact that certain behaviors (like spanking or cuffing someone) could be considered a breach of personal rights, which constitutes a criminal offense.
- In countries like Germany, Netherlands, Japan, and Scandinavia, such behavior is legal in principle. In Austria, the legal status is not clear, while in Switzerland some BDSM practices can be considered criminal.
- In Australia, BDSM is illegal in the Northern Territory. Additionally, BDSM pornography is banned nationwide.
- The United States Federal law does not list a specific criminal determination for consensual BDSM acts.

2. **Consent and Criminal Charges**:
- There have been cases where people were prosecuted for criminal or sexual assault for behaviors that were reported to have been consensual. For example, Operation Spanner in the United Kingdom involved gay men engaging in extreme BDSM behaviors while being filmed. The courts ruled that consent did not allow such bodily harm in a "civilized society."
- Unfortunately, no court decisions in the United States have accepted consent as a defense to prosecution for assault or abuse involving BDSM.
- Due to fear of stigma or embarrassment, many potential criminal acts within BDSM go unreported.
- New guidelines called **Explicit Prior Permission (EPP)** may offer protection from prosecution. EPP requires explicit informed consent, no extreme behaviors, and an ability to end activities.

3. **BDSM Contracts**:
- Contracts related to sex acts (including BDSM contracts) are enforceable to the extent that prostitution is legal in the jurisdiction.
- However, at best, such agreements are enforceable only when both parties want them to be.

In summary, while there is growing acceptance of diverse sexual interests like BDSM, understanding the legal aspects and ensuring clear communication and consent remain crucial for practitioners.

BDSM (real peoples lives)

***We as a coven do not exactly understand, covet, or agree with this way of life. like this way of life is not for everyone. Please understand that when you grow from a baby to an old person you are taught who you are and how you are in life. (You are a Dominant or submissive by teaching of elders and parents in your life.) WHO ARE YOU TO YOU, and HOW WERE YOU TAUGHT? It is like being taught being Christian is who you are so you except it and go with it until you see you are not. As a Christian how is your house supposed to function? " The Man is the leader of the home (a Dominant) when you read about the wife, she is taught to be submissive In the Christian. They in their faith said that BDSM is wrong... Why, what is the Perception? There is a sub/Dom dynamic in all of your life, and you choose where you are and what you will put up with.   

there is a patriarchy and a matriarchy what area does your home fall under. One being potentially pagan, and the other is written in black and white how each spouse is to treat the other to please their God. (What is good enough for my father is good enough for me... how do you feel about the saying now?)

Before you choose your roll in life, please find a proper teacher/ councilor to guide to know what and who you are. This is not a faith but a position you put yourself in.

  • I am the Dom, and this is what I expect so I need to write down what I expect (prenuptial agreements sound right?)
  • I am a sub, and this is what I need from my Dom, so I write it down (prenuptial agreement sounds right?)
  • we get together and iron out what we except for each other. In this lifestyle you are looking at it is total commitment not hey I want a divorce out of the blue... You know when you are unhappy, and that is when you choose to or not to choose to breech the contract you have with one another. This is how you were raised as a Christian (when you were being raised from childhood, before your conversion) and some people don't know it is not religion it is how we are taught to live from our earthly parents at birth until now.
  • the love, respect and caring that comes from that formation is symbiotic and hard to break if it is put together correctly.
  • what you do in your bedroom is on you... and if you let outsider control your life your family will never be hole.
  • There is No excuse for unwanted abuse. and that is when your Dom card should be pulled, and you get incarcerated by the law of the land.
  • the term switch is meant more for a team that believes in equality of al partners involved... We are not all like that.
  • I AM HUSBAND/MALE FORM WHAT AM I IN YOUR LIFE?
  • I AM A WIFE/FEMALE FORM WHAT AM I IN YOUR LIFE?
  • I AM A PARTNER/EVERYONE WHAT AM I IN YOUR LIFE?
  • I am a stranger to you what do I care about your life unless you want to be in mine. What am I to You?
  • Power is a perceived concept by the person you are with. Control is the one who allows life to happen: example: a great dom will listen, feel, and understand what the sub wants and act accordingly. Is that in power or is that giving power to the sub... perception is 99.999% of all actions. 
  • I perceived that outsiders hurt your family structure ... What am I apt to do, too, for, or against the outsider?

BDSM (real peoples' lives)

PLEASE UNDERSTAND NOT ALL GET INTO WHIPS AND CHAINS, WE HERE UNDERSTAND THE DOM., SUB. ROLES

From the beginning of actual marriage rituals to the actions of polyamorous and monogamous individuals. Do you understand we bought our wives from mail order catalogues. Going from state to state until we ordered from other countries also, and you had a bill of sale for the wife- submissive. Now we pay for a licence to be married (owned by your partner). bdsm is just is just marriage with a prenuptial paperwork. In my personal experience I have seen ALL people either play a submissive or a dominant role in life. It is not a lifestyle, IT IS LIFE (it is not a game). One will ultimately dominate OVER the other. There is no equality, It is just what you will put up with until the end of life. Here we see life for what it is without the candy coating it. You either live the life given to you, or you wish you could, that is it. 

 What is the harm in having more than one submissive in your life? Government limited The title of  one wife so submissive, mistress, Girlfriend, concubine, slave or whatever other title you choose to put on it. Remember it is insulting to a spouse to say  I own you and you are payed for. Remember you only took over the payments and she still has needs you agreed to take care for them as a spouse. It is still rude to use it to control another person and can bite you in the butt in the end.  example: I own you, your are my property you will do as I say, I did not sign up for this shit with out reviewing your contract with your spouse. 

Dominants- Husband- boyfriend- fiance' are good people who help their submissive people in life nurturing and loving your submissive. 

You have a contract like what your teachers or parent did when you were a kid to straighten up your life to help you. it is more of a prenuptial agreement with a few more guiding instruction in your marriage. 

Here are some stories from real people about BDSM.  No Names Please!!! 

UNDERSTAND ABUSE IS NOT TOLERATED OR EXCEPTED!READ THE CONTRACT IT TELLS YOU HOW WELL IT IS EXCEPTED,(PUNISHMENT SHOULD BE REQUIRED.)

This is a story from one of our members.

  • Sharing my experiences and life in the BDSM lifestyle...  ●To make things perfectly clear her "father"  did not touch her, it was only advice when asked.

Let's start with the age I discovered my part in the BDSM lifestyle. I was 14 years old when I discovered BDSM for the first time. I had always wondered why I was so obedient to people and always did what I was told. I consulted my father and asked questions, learned and observed my behaviors as well as others’ behaviors. 

This might sound weird to some but it was the only way I could safely learn about the BDSM world. My father became my mentor and taught me the rights, the wrongs on how a person should and shouldn't be treated in this lifestyle. My father mentored me for quite a few years even after I got into BDSM relationships. To this day my dad is still my mentor when it comes to the BDSM lifestyle and I'm 26 years old. 

  • Moving on to what I am in the lifestyle...  ●

From the very beginning when I first started learning, being mentored and observing my behaviors, I learned I was a submissive. Now I know there are many titles, roles and expectations in the BDSM lifestyle, but I learned I was submissive based on my behaviors and actions. 

Now that I'm older I not only identify as a submissive, but I now also identify as a brat. I have my moments where I do things specifically seeking the "punishments" as it gives me something fun to do to get my Dom going. I also do it because I get bored of behaving constantly that I seek different means of behaviors. So, to put all of that into context, in the beginning I only labeled as a submissive, but now that I'm older, learned more, adapted more and such, I am a submissive and a brat. Yes, before it's asked, I know when to be each title as it has it's times and places. 

  • Onto what I sought and what I now seek in the lifestyle...  ●

When I first started seeking my own BDSM relationships, I sought out people who could just give me Dominance and knew what the basic meaning of BDSM was. Also, I only sought BDSM in the bedroom. I sought the wrong thing when I first began. When it came to my first BDSM relationship, I hid it from my father, which was the worst thing I could have done, but we'll get into that later on in this. 

Now I'm older, experienced, have lived and learned, I seek differently... Now I seek a Dominant man who knows the BDSM world thoroughly, who knows control, structure, rules, love, aftercare, etc... I've discovered now that when I seek a BDSM relationship that I don't only seek control in the bedroom. I seek structure, control and rules in an everyday aspect vs just in the bedroom. I never thrived in my first few relationships, but now that I've progressed in life I thrive when I seek what I really needed when it comes to Dominance and giving up control. 

  • Onto what I've experienced in BDSM so far... ●

When I got into my first few BDSM relationships, they were wrong... In the beginning when I hid my BDSM relationship, I was abused, I was hurt, treated poorly and used. Now I'm not saying every BDSM relationship I've been in has been that way but when I first sought it out, they were because I didn't know what exactly I was looking for until my father stepped in to guide me in the right direction. 

As I aged and got more experienced, I got proper treatment in the lifestyle. I experienced proper treatment, proper control, structure, aftercare and happiness in the lifestyle. 

BDSM is not all about control, abuse, structure or all the negative things people say about it. BDSM is so much more. It takes complete trust, complete communication, complete honesty. It's not just about people experiencing fantasies, being tied up, sex or being spanked. That's some of what the lifestyle has taught me in the last almost 11 years. 

  • What BDSM has taught me  ●
  • The BDSM lifestyle has taught me many things. To name a few, it's taught me a different meaning of structure, rules, trust and communication. Safe words I've also learned fast and efficiently. Another very important item in this world is AFTERCARE. This lifestyle will not thrive unless you have learned those things. 
  • It's taught me that if you break the rules there are punishments and consequences. The lifestyle has taught me that if you don't trust, then you'll always fear the worst when trying different things or experiences. 
  • Communication in the most vital thing in this lifestyle because if you don't communicate, your superior or your lower will not know what is okay and what's not okay. 
  • What goes along with communication is Safe words, without Safe words your superior or lower will not know if they have gone too far, if they can continue or if they need to immediately stop what they are doing.
  • Another very vital piece to this world is aftercare. You wouldn't believe how many people have said that it's not needed, that they don't know what it is or that they don't know how to provide aftercare. 
  • Aftercare is something that I will say is required after scenes, punishments or even just Dom/sub sex. It's not just needed for submissives, slaves, brats, pets, etc... Dominants NEED aftercare too and that shocks people when I say that. Submissives have what's called sub drop, well Dominants have Dom drop too. They're human just like us submissives. So, it's required from both ends, not just one.
  • Rules... Never have I gotten a proper BDSM relationship without rules. Rules are put into place for a reason and they are expected to be followed and or obeyed unless you'd like the consequences. I when I'm being a brat enjoy the consequences, but when I'm in that submissive mindset, I don't particularly enjoy my consequences. 

Now let's move onto trust. If there is no trust in the relationship and lifestyle then there's a big problem and you shouldn't be in this lifestyle or in a relationship with a person period. 

  • What I like in the BDSM lifestyle  ●

For me I enjoy the structure, the rules, the complete power exchange. 

I thrive on Dominance, the structure and giving control up to my superior. Like any relationship or lifestyle there are pros and cons, but those are for you to determine as I don't know what you like or don't like when it comes to that. 

The best piece of advice I can give you, much like my other article is, do your research, make sure it's for you, and appreciate the work people have put into it.

 

 

Bach ci in the house... give it up for the man "Bach ci."

I will start off by telling you that I never truly thought of myself as a Dom or a sub because the way I was brought up was what I called old fashion and I knew not to get out of hand or I would be corrected and as I got older I became the person who raised me in a sense that it can be overwhelming at times because Most of the men in our family had the "Dom touch " to how they lead their houses. In our family we were not raised to be submissive that was a choice you made as you were growing, and it was your call. No one abused you (perceived abuse) in order to get any response from you and you either done it from love or spite was totally up to you. Life is .01% action the rest of the 99.999% is your perception of who you are and who you choose to be. If I am a Dom than that is what my family, friends, and colleges have made me. I just know for myself I will never again be submissive to another without total love and commitment like I have with my current wife. I love every one of my wives and would not want to erase any of them from my life because they are also how I am the way that I am. Each one had their time until the time came to a close for them.

I try to teach all my children how to get through life before I die and hope they respect me as a human when they grow up and move out. I will never teach my children to be submissive except the ones they love and be obedient to their Elders/ work superiors. YES, there is a difference in both. When you are submissive you put all of you into what you do for that person no matter what it is, and loyalty is second to NONE. You know this is not the new love faze of polyamory or puppy love of monogamy because when they correct you, you feel it hard, and you try to make it better just so your Dom is at peace again. When I talk about this ... this is not being a submissive in just the bedroom. This is life and how it will be for you as a submissive. Obedient you do not give your life for someone that is just a job or chore.

Before I go any further there is a couple of things you need to be aware of. (1) Stockholm syndrome- is when you fall in love with your capture/abuser please look up the rest of it I do not want to tell you wrong. (2) I do not know the name of it, but it is when you leave relationship for whatever reason ... it does not matter, and you get in with the exact same type of people because you did not take time to heal. Maybe even going back to him because it is the devil you know.  (please, stop the cycle of violence and other abuses that are happening that you see and are a part of unless u truly do enjoy it, it is not for me to judge). (3) last but not least for all the submissive things I will let you in on. "USE A SAFE WORD" this tells your Dom when they are going too far, it keeps everything close to legal as you want it.

If you do not listen than an angry father may help solve the issue. When you handle my daughters if you do not have my touch, I recommend you not walk away from my family I say run, and you better never stop running. It means you did not handle her the way she needed to be handled. If it means time in prison, I am old it will be a shorter time in the cell. If it means going to the grave; thank you for putting this body in its final resting space.

I am told I am a dom... I have grown a lot over the years and if that is what you choose to think when you look at me than that is what I am. A man is who he thinks he is, a man is who others thinks he is, and finally a man is who he really is in his soul. I am told I'M a Dom of sorts I prefer the term gentle Dom I have heard the other term and was insulted ... I did not like it, if someone has daddy issues maybe I am the wrong person for you. The terms they use are so demeaning like baby girl, daddy, harder daddy harder, OH MY GODS NO, NO, NO, NO PLEASE STOP WHILE I HAVE A HEAD. Any how back here and in great company. I will tell you I am just who I am and what you believe of me is your reality not mine unless you make it that way then we may or may not see eye to eye. When I teach my children, I teach them to use their brains to make their own decisions and feel what they are going to feel. If I taught my child this lifestyle, it is because she already had interest in it. So, Daddy Dom (we prefer the term Gentle Dom) I guess can be respectable in that since of the words, but I will never use those other terms I said earlier. (I DO NOT TOUCH MY CHILDREN WHEN I TEACH LESSONS OF LIFE TO THEM.) Those other term insinuated it.

one of the things my daughter I does not understand is that the Dom is neither above you nor below you. He is your Dom because you love, trust and respect him/her with your whole heart not taking abuse from no one, and expecting the same love back. when the submissive is being protected, loved, and safe it is done. 

he is supposed to care for you as you care for him. He will teach you and you will teach him. The titles are ego stroking. Who has the most power between the two? I will give you a hint... It is not the Dom of the group. When you willingly gave your whole self to your Dom, look in the rules to code of conduct. If the sub uses the safe word the Dom is to STOP right now. now you tell me that's not control. just because you want your hair stroked or cuddled 26 hours of a 24-hour period and he does it because he cares for you. In return YOU WILL DO AS HE WISHES BECAUSE YOU CARE FOR HIM AND YOU WANT TO MAKE HIS/HER WORLD AS GOOD AS YOU CAN MAKE IT. DOM= husband, the dominant energy... He creates respectful, loving power in the house   SUB= wife, the submissives control in the house (she creates a calm within his soul so he can do what needs to be done.) 1+1= a perfect combination for great relationships Each one compliments the other like a pot + water makes good coffee water. If it is not There then... the kindred IT WILL NEVER WORK even adding other partners.

when you are polyamorous there are this lifestyle is a little different that you may expect but may still be enjoyable.   

We are all vanilla sometimes, but we do live the lifestyle we choose, but hard-core folks will say, how dare you, I just done something last month (weekend bdsm want to be another term is part timer) ... folks the term is "lifestyle" not weekend warrior, so give me a break live it or not. To the outside world I am an old fashion dad everyday life, my family knows the twists in our lives that are there, and we keep it to ourselves. When I talk about this there is no children involved in any way shape or form of any of the actions of that lifestyle and we use contracts so everyone knows the rules.